On my flight back home for the holidays, I popped in by one of the convenience stores in the Montreal airport to see if there were any books worth buying for the plane ride. Instead, I found these:
Who knew bitches were in such high demand?
Then, a Facebook acquaintance introduced me to this horrifying yet terribly entertaining tumblr, “nice guys” of okcupid, where the author shared some choice quotes from the profiles of the self-proclaimed “nice guys” of OkCupid. It was a great selection of men who were wilfully blind to their own shortcomings, while blaming the women for their eternally single status. Some choice quotes include:
“most women these days are bitchs[sic], sluts or just a combo of the two which is pathetic.”
“Satanic women enticing me to fall into perilous friend zone” [note: apparently friendzone is the place of death, as all the men on this tumblr are obsessed with it and want it to die]
“I have a pretty rockin’ personality…vegetarians piss me off, same with feminists and hippies.”
“You should message me if…you’re not some ignorant girl who likes douche bags.”
And my personal favourite:
“I think breaking bad [sic] helped ruin my last relationship. After every episode I was depressed as fuck and didn’t want to talk to my gf. Oh well she was a slut.”
But maybe the most mind-boggling part of it were the inclusion of the men’s answers to questions like “Does no mean no?” where many answers excerpted said:
“A No is just a Yes that needs a little convincing!”
After reading every single entry of the tumblr, my thoughts are the following:
- When will we stop blaming women? First we blamed them for getting sexually assaulted, and these men seem to have no problem blaming women for their relationship status instead of looking inwardly.
- “Nice” is a qualifier that should be used exclusively by others to describe you, not something you say about yourself.
- Also, opening doors, pulling chairs, and buying flowers are not all that’s cracked up to be unless they’re accompanied by, I dunno, genuine respect for a woman’s wishes and bodily integrity.
- Maybe the men were thinking about convincing women to say yes to a date when they wrote the answers that basically say “no means yes!” but maybe they should think about how that maks them sound like…well, potential rapists.
To sum up: